With the holidays fast approaching and being around more people than usual, I felt this was an appropriate time to put this post out.

First off: what/who is an energy vampire?

An energy vampire is a person that feeds off of your emotional and spiritual/psychic energy.

‘Energy Vampire’ is a term that is used to describe a person that drains others emotionally.

These ‘vampires’ are not to be confused with the blood-sucking, large fanged vampires of common folklore, no.

They appear perfectly healthy and normal and often times are ; however people who display vampire traits often lack empathy and to a certain extent, emotional maturity.

There is also a sense of inflated importance to their well-being with little to no consideration of yours and also, a lack of boundaries.

Meaning, what they want and/or need from you?  Whether it is your time, your ear, your energy…they will get it!

They are determined because consciously or unconsciously they are looking for you to fill a void within their soul, their psyche.

Remember they do not seek to drain you emotionally and they do so unwittingly, but it does happen.

Oh yes, this is a real phenomenon and the more empathic and sensitive you are the more likely you are to experience this.

You must put your boundaries up or you will lose yourself in their troubles and become off center.

How do you know if you are dealing with an energy vampire(s)?

First off, just know that they suck and they suck and we allow it because we feel bad, we are nice, we want to be there for them etc.  Before you know it, the dynamic is created due to expectation.

They disarm your natural defenses and somehow you feel responsible for their well-being .

You know this is unhealthy because it does not feel good!

With every interaction with the person (or people) you will feel it in every fibre of your being.

You will feel drained in their presence and exhausted after spending time with them, yet they receive a surge during and after interacting with you, a high even.

Even if at a distance, connecting with their energy via phone you often become exhausted, moody and even angry.  Emotionally depleted.

Yes this is how you know you have become the host for their supply.

Now, we all have people in our lives that we go to when we are in need of an ear or shoulder to cry on.  This is totally normal and healthy.

There are also those that we would set aside hours on end for if they need us but it is different as the exchange feels equal and it is not always expected or constant.

You are also able to separate when necessary with these connections and there are no expectations.

Remember you cannot be the constant host for anyone’s emotional or spiritual supply!

With energy vampires, it is never enough.

They may call you incessantly and leave messages, if you don’t answer within a reasonable time frame for them they will continue to call/text or become angry with you for not being accessible.

They never stop and think you are unable to answer because you are busy with your own life/work/family, or you are unavailable for whatever the reason because remember, they often lack empathy.

When you do give your energy it just keeps going because they just want more, they need more.  The more you give?  The more they will seek to get.

Usually these exchanges center around them and their current reality.  Every now and again you may get “and how are you”?

Sound familiar?

By this point, you are so exhausted that you don’t share much, if at all.

If you do begin to share the energy thief may act disinterested and unengaged, continuing to bring the conversation back around to them.  Or even worse and my biggest pet peeve?  They talk over you.

So what can you do if you recognize you have or are being ‘vampired’? 

You must recognize that you played a part in creating this dynamic, ok?  Good, now it’s time to instill some boundaries.

First and most obvious, limit your time with them.

Decide if this is a person you truly love and enjoy or just feel obligated to do so.  Sorry to sound harsh here but this is truth as you can love someone and not really enjoy their energy, or vice versa.

If you value the relationship it may be hard to vocalize what you are feeling in a tactful manner, so it’s best to slowly put the boundaries up.

However you need to do this is exactly what you do.

Put some healthy distance and pull the focus back on you as you have likely been neglecting yourself.  This is not selfish!

When you feel up to it, you can give your energy but set a time limit for it in your head, or just point blank tell them.

“I would like to chat but I only have a a few minutes” goes a long way!

If you care for the person and would like to maintain the relationship but with boundaries in place, you must find a healthy way to deal with this because they will likely not change.

Another way of coping  is by not getting angry and instead, shift it to a loving vibration where you recognize that they do value you very much and on some level?  They really respect you but may not know any better. 

Lastly, one of my favorite techniques is by using crystals with properties specifically for protecting our energy and our auric field.

Black tourmaline is my absolute favorite for protecting and deflecting any negative energy or vibes around you or towards you.

You can either wear a piece of jewelry with this stone, or buy a small piece to wear somewhere on your body.

In my world, the left side takes in energy as the right side puts it out.  So I like to wear the tourmaline on my left side as to protect what I take in.

Hematite is another great stone for grounding and shielding.  This is a pretty, grey stone that is also found in black.  I find the grey to be the best to wear on both sides.

Lastly, Malachite and Rose Quartz are two fantastic heart-centered stones that will remind you to keep all of this in a loving and compassionate vibration.

Most important is this:  do not feel guilty as there is nothing negative about protecting your energy!

Trust me, this is a constant struggle for me as an empath/sensitive.  We want to always be there for everybody, but we must take care of ourselves first and we cannot help everyone all the time!

One last tip- do not force yourself to go anywhere or be with anyone that is toxic for your mental and physical health!

It does not matter how ‘obligated’ you feel as there are always ways to minimize, or avoid altogether.

I hope you all have a wonderful holiday season!

Don’t forget to take advantage of my December discounts for the rest of this month!  For all consultations, receive 20% off at check-out by using the code ‘HOLIDAYS’.

*Please note, you do not have to book or use your session in December to receive the discount, you only need to purchase it this month.

For gift certificates, to receive 20% off use the code ‘GIFT’ at checkout.

✌️  &  ❤️ ,

Lisa

 

 

 

I put out a video back in September on the energy of that months Full Moon, just like I always do.

Later on that week I received an email from an amazing woman and client that works in media.  She also hosts ‘Women in Business’ network/marketing events.

She suggested it would be a great idea for me to come and be the presenter for the 10/29 event.

I checked my calendar to make sure I was available, and then without any hesitation I said “absolutely, I would love that”.

We discussed what I would talk about as the main topic and it clicked- my presentation would be “How to use your astrological blueprint to fuel your passion & follow your dreams”.

At this point allow me to share with you, when it comes to public speaking?  I am fine one-on-one and in small groups but a large audience freaks. me. out.

As extroverted and open as I can and may be I am also very shy and truly dislike being the center of attention.  In fact, it gives me anxiety, people watching me.

So, I say yes anyway.  I find out this event is going to potentially be 50-60 women there as a means of advertising and networking.

Oddly, I was calm about this.  I was going to do this!  Besides, I would be speaking about my passion, astrology!  I got this, right?

I made my outline, the ladies created slides for me as a point of reference, and then it was 10/29.

I decided to wear Red as it was Tuesday, planetary MARS day (I know I’m an astro- nerd).

Besides, planet Mars represents passion and power, as does the color red.  What other way to boost your confidence, right?  Any little bit helps when you’re nervous. 😉

Long story short: I did it.

I centered myself, got up there and was me.

Something I always reflect upon as I go through my every day, especially if I am hit with doubt, shame or fear about anything: I will tell myself :

I kept this in mind leading up to and during the presentation.

I did not overthink it as I always do.  I just got up there and spoke freely as i would with a group of friends.  No filter.

As I began to tell my story of how I came to do this work full-time, I broke down a little and cried.  I guess I never really discuss this, and it got me emotional to go back to that time and really feel it.

*If you would like to skip ahead scroll to the end to watch the video clip of the presentation.

My natural instinct was to apologize.

How embarrassing!  I am choking up in front of all of these ladies but worse than that? I’m the presenter.  Crying in front of others I can handle, but this was another level.

But an amazing thing happened.

As I apologized and stopped for a moment to collect myself- this  beautiful audience of women applauded me, they cheered me on.

I heard “cry you’re human, let it fly”, and all sorts of other inspirational comments.

After the presentation as I walked around the room briefly chatting with the women several of them told me:

“I’m so happy I came tonight”.

“I can tell you are genuine and love what you do”.

“That was so authentic”.

“You are inspirational”‘

I had several realizations that evening and the days after the event.

1). We are human, not super-human.   We are not required or expected to always hold it together,  and every now and then it is necessary to ‘lose it’ a little

This is not weak, but rather humbling and genuine.

2).  Even when you feel like what you do does not matter?  Keep going because you never know who you are inspiring.

I will admit that there are times where I feel like what I do does not truly matter or make a difference.

The last time I had a bout of this and was feeling very low, right as I was hanging up with a regular client she said to me:

“Lisa I feel like you need to know how important you are to me.  Even though I have never met you in person, you have been a part of my journey since day one and I don’t know what I would do without you”.

Her words snapped me out of my pity-party and shifted me.

3). All of us matter and we all deserve to be heard.

This is the reason I always try and acknowledge everybody.

The gas station attendant, the waitress, the bartender, the accountant.  Does not matter who they are as I go about my every day I recognize that we all have a story, a struggle.

No matter what type of face we present to the world?  There is often much more going on beneath the surface and one kind word or gesture can really mean more to someone than we will ever know.

My work consists of creating a safe space for others where they can feel heard, supported and seen….I guess sometimes I forget that I need that too!

I realized that the main reason I got so emotional during my presentation was because I never really acknowledged the tremendous soul growth that has occurred for me over the past four years.

4). Your passion and your purpose are always uniquely linked, whether you recognize this or not.

I am an old soul.

Since childhood, I was told I was wise beyond my years and I felt that way too.  Not in the form of book-smart, but more in the form of ‘ soul smart’.  I knew I just  ‘got things’ on a much deeper level and still do.

I have always loved to help others, to listen and give advice.  I am now able to do this naturally through my readings.

This satisfies the caretaker and counselor in me so much so,  that I am contemplating furthering my education for counseling.

I never thought I would be able to turn this into my lifes work, and even with its challenges and hard times?  I would not change a thing because I love what I do and I genuinely love helping others.

 5). Stay true to yourself and you will find your tribe.  The path will become more clear.

Do at least one thing daily/weekly that you are passionate about.  Whether it’s cooking, gardening, painting, dancing or singing.

If you enjoy it, find a way to incorporate it into your life.

It is true that when you engage in something(s) that are enjoyable, your energy naturally opens up and you are able to receive.

Remember, what you do and who you are?  Two completely different things.

Recently, I was at a party and I struck up a conversation with a very nice woman.  I did not ask what she did for a living, but she volunteered that she was a lawyer.

After she said that, I responded with “but who are you”?

She looked at me and the best word I can use to describe it is baffled.  She did not even know how to respond. 

I waited and then she began to tell me about her passion for collecting crystals, and her (closet) love of astrology of all things.

At this point, I had not offered up much about me and so she asked: “do you believe in astrology”?

I laughed and said to her : “you’re talking to the right woman”! 

We proceeded to speak for a solid hour and I armed her with resources to study more into astrology.

Before we exchanged cards and goodbyes,  a huge smile spread across her face and she said “I like you Lisa , you make me think”.

What that really meant was that she felt free to express herself, who she was not what she does.

At some point, your passion might just become your purpose, or at least you will be closer to living it out that way.

Below is a short clip from the presentation.

Watch the full video below.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kc-pr4yijuM&t=24s

To find out more about my work read more about me here.

Hear what others have to say here.

To view availability and/or to schedule a session please go here.

✌️ & ❤️

Lisa

12/12 at 12:12 AM EST, the final Full Moon of this decade will peak.

12 is a number that bears much significance as we have twelve months per calendar year, twelve blocks of twelve hours per day, and twelve zodiac signs.

Spiritually speaking ’12’ represents completion and you will also find the number twelve used in 187 places in the bible.  

The energy is at an all time high right now as this year is winding down.

There is an electric buzz in the air, a pulsing that can be felt.

We feel this both on the outside but also on the inside- inside of our bodies, our minds, our hearts.

Restless, agitated, excited all at once.

*If you just want to skip ahead to the video reading, just scroll to the end.

Full Moons are times of great release, purging and cleansing.

A Full Moon happens when the Sun is opposite the Moon.

This highlights the polarities (opposing forces) in our lives.

These polarities are of an emotional, physical and spiritual nature.  It can be one area or all three, and each Full Moon will feel different based on the sign and planetary aspects surrounding the Moon.

Awareness and emotion reach their peak and are heightened around Full Moons.  This is why we feel more edgy and anxious around these times, sometimes not even being able to sleep.

The Moon rules our subconscious, the raw emotions that lurk underneath the surface.

Everything comes to a head under this energy.  There is a tug of war between head and heart, and because this is the last Full Moon of this year, this decade, you can expect to feel extreme emotional swings.

The Sun is in Sagittarius while the Moon is in the opposite sign of Gemini. 

This Moon is adaptable, curious and restless as both Gemini and Sagittarius are mutable signs.

Both of these signs are constantly in motion.  They are always seeking for more knowledge, truth and enlightenment.

These signs both just ultimately want to have a good time!

That being said- this Moon energy can have us feeling up and down, back and forth, side to side.

It is best to ride the emotional roller coaster.

We are being called to acknowledge what, where and who we need to.   It is time to take accountability and also take back our power where we need to.

Release the baggage that no longer serves our growth, our purpose.

Speaking of purpose if you feel ‘purposeless’, just know that ‘this too shall pass’.

The way that the planets are configured at this moment in time can have us recalling everything.

Our psyches just won’t let up and this is the point.

This time period is a major gateway for growth, clearing, healing and moving forward.

Do not lose hope or faith, do not lose sight of how far you have come.

This final Full Moon of the year shines its light upon the shadows that have to deal with our money, our self-worth and our relationships.

This can feel heavy as all three are connected and shape our self-perception.

Try and remain clear headed, clear hearted and centered as we  gear up for the final New Moon of the year on 12/26, and this one is an Eclipse!

My last Full Moon Goddess Circle is on 12/12, the night of the Full Moon and there are still some spaces left!  To sign up go here.

Also for the remainder of December ALL APPOINTMENTS are 20% off INCLUDING GIFT CERTIFICATES!

Use the code HOLIDAYS for consultations, and GIFT for gift certificates.

Here’s more on this Full Moon energy below, enjoy.

✌️ & 💕

Lisa

 

 

 

Tuesday 11/26 10:06 AM EST we experience a sweet and focused New Moon in Sagittarius.

A New Moon occurs when the Sun and Moon are in alignment in the sky.

The Sun (our ego) and the Moon (our soul) are harmonizing under this energy which produces clarity and opportunity.

A New Moon marks the beginning of the lunar cycle, the movement of the moon through its different phases.

New Moons are a time of new beginnings.  The beginning of a new cycle, a time to initiate plans and projects, get things moving, a fresh start.  

Abundance surrounds this energy.

New Moons are auspicious times filled with promise and opportunity.

The Sun aligns with the Moon in the sky when it’s a New Moon meaning, that they are in the same sign –Sagittarius.

This is the sign represented by the archer that holds the bow and arrow, aiming for its mark, making sure to do what is necessary to get that bulls-eye.

This is the energy under this New Moon.

We feel ready for action yet anxious and edgy.

We feel hopeful and optimistic, yet we are still cautious.

We can see glimmers of our future and we are excited to go into 2020, a new decade.

Along with this , we also are  experiencing  a beautiful Venus/Jupiter conjunction.

Venus (love , intimacy, what we value) and Jupiter (hope, growth and expansion) are literally ‘kissing’ in the sky.

From 11/24-11/29 get outside right at dusk, and you will be able to see the two brightest planets in our solar system shining together.

Spiritually, this lends to the sweetening of relationships.

Consequently, there could be severing of some relationships, bittersweet yet necessary endings.

This is about all heart-based relationships- not just romantic and relationship to self being the most significant!

Read/watch more on this time period here.

✌️ & ❤️

Lisa

11/22 the Sun shifts from passionate Scorpio into adventurous and free- spirited Sagittarius.

The Sun will remain in this sign until 12/21.

Happy Birthday to all of the ‘Saggies’ out there!

As this sign is mutable, they are adaptable and tend to move around a lot.

They are very open minded and free spirited.  They are brutally honest as they are always seeking the truth.

Under the element of fire, Sagittarius is an active sign.

The symbol that represents this sign is the Archer, the bow and arrow.  When and what they are seeking,  they hardly ever miss the mark.

They are determined as all heck.

There is always an underlying love for adventure here.  Usually those born under this sign have a bit of a travel bug in them, and often times to foreign lands.

Sagittarius rules over the 9th (ninth) house in astrology, ruled by expansive planet Jupiter.

This is the house of philosophy and higher learning, spirituality and religion, the higher mind, travel and expansion.   All of these areas are governed by Sagittarius.

At their most positive side of expression, Sagittarius souls are fun loving,  optimistic, progressive and intelligent.

They are constantly seeking knowledge no matter what it is about, but more importantly, they seek the truth.  Not just any truth, but their truth and they will typically stop at nothing to get it.

At their shadow side they can be careless and too straight-forward, pompous.

They can be blunt to the point of hurting others feelings badly, and they typically won’t feel bad about it either because hey, it’s the truth!  This is their philosophy.

The tarot card that Sagittarius rules is number Fourteen,  XIV Temperance

As Greek Mythology has it,  the winged angel on this card is a bi-sexual god and is the son of Hermes and the god of Aphrodite.

As such, he symbolizes the balance between the sexes.

Balance, moderation, tempering are keywords for this card and this energy.

Sagittarius season tends to be fun-loving and festive as we enter the holiday season.

While this can be great and there are good times to come, we must also keep our wits about us and keep a healthy balance.

Keep this in mind over the next few weeks.

Happy Sagittarius Season!

✌️ & 💕

Lisa