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When Our Loved Ones Pass, Their Souls Live On

*The original date of this post was April 13, 2020, enjoy.

Loss is hard, no matter what.

Death is an inevitability of life and so….final.  Nothing can ever go back to the way it was when a loved one passes, and this is what makes it so difficult.

Every holiday, every anniversary, every milestone, is changed forever.

Hanging on to the good times is all that we can do, to honor and cherish their presence in our lives, and the memories.

To be grateful and thankful for the times we had with them.

Last week we lost an Aunt who was very close and very special to our family.

Aunt Carol was 98 years old, God Bless her and sharp as a whip. She was my Grandmother’s sister, and did not have any biological children.

Aunt Carol was always with us, and to be honest she was like another Grandmother to my siblings and I.

I had a particularly close relationship with her, as I was the first girl after a crew of boys. We had a tight bond, she was my person. Ok, I will say it and my siblings would all agree: I was her favorite . In fact, my Grandmother (rest her soul) used to make it a point to openly share “you are Aunt Carol’s favorite, and your sister is mine”. Thanks Granny !

All of my memories as a little girl include Aunt Carol; she was always there.

One of my fondest memories of her was when I was seven.

I had to have my tonsils and adenoids taken out and I was terrified.  “What if I don’t wake up”?  This was my constant question and fear. You see, I was born with a slight heart defect, so anesthesia can actually be dangerous for me. This gave me a lot of fear as a child, and she would reassure me often, that I was ok.

This time with the surgery looming was no different. The night before I was an anxious little mess. Aunt Carol came over our house and consoled me to sleep promising me that I would be ok, and as you can imagine, I made her promise me about twenty-five times!  She also promised she would be at the hospital as soon as she could.

When I woke up from the anesthesia, naturally I was confused.  I vividly remember, however, Aunt Carol.  There she was, right at my bedside with red jello (my childhood favorite) in hand, ready to feed me.

She was like that, always there for me no matter what.

I realize as each day passes how very lucky I am, we all were, to have had her for this long.  Still, my heart hurts and I am sad.  I will miss her tremendously and already do.

I will continue to reflect upon all of the good, because that will keep her memory alive. I will always remain grateful and aware, of how lucky I was to have had her in my life. I feel her through the fierce bond I have with my own niece, and it always reminds me of the bond I had with Aunt Carol.

About yesterday.

Even though I know she is in a better place and at peace, I needed a sign.

Yesterday (Easter Sunday) I got outside for a run.  As I was running a little butterfly flitted in front of my face….it was a white one, very common right?

I started thinking of Aunt Carol and I started talking to her- I said, and I quote “Aunt Carol, send me an all blue butterfly so I know you got there ok”.

I asked for ALL BLUE specifically, because how often do we see an all blue butterfly? Well, other than as an emoji on the iphone!

Later that evening I sat on my couch and opened up my laptop… and this is the first thing I see. (Press play).

A National Geographic ad with a swarm of blue butterflies!

I have no clue why or how that ad was on my laptop. I wasn’t on their website earlier, it just wasn’t logical. *Note, if you try to click on the video, it is not there. I kept it here on purpose because believe me, I have really searched the internet for it to add it back to this post … it is as if it no longer exists! Let me tell you, it worked when I first put out this post in 2020 so this is even more validation, that this was specifically for me, from Aunt Carol .

What is even more amazing to me, is the sound of the birds chirping that were in the background of this video.

Sweet Uncle Joe who was Aunt Carol’s husband, passed in 2010 and he loved birds.

In fact, he is the reason I love birds so much.  Together with our binoculars, we would watch the birds and it was one of my favorite activities as a child (“pee pee birds” I used to call the little birds and Uncle Joe would crack up).

That was Aunt Carol’s way of letting me know that not only did she get there?  She is free and with Uncle Joe.  

When I saw this I got the chills and a blanket of warmth simultaneously, up and down my body. The tears welled up and a huge smile broke across my face.  I was filled with peace.

Remember you can always ask for signs, but you must be open to how and when they show up. The spirit world does not operate on our timetable! Time is linear, and they will show up in their own time.

Conveniently? It is always when we need them the most, even when we don’t realize it.

May you all receive signs, and feelings of peace and validation when they arrive.

Much Love,

Lisa

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Marianne Pagano
Marianne Pagano
4 years ago

That was a beautiful post. I got the chills too… And something really funny. While I was reading this post I was eating red jello – took the last spoonful when I red about your red jello!!!!
xo
Marianne

Joan
Joan
4 years ago

Oh my God Lisa! That was amazing! First off I am obsessed with butterflies! Every year the butterfly I call it but I think its just a pretty wife comes to my house and sits on my front reeling and I would see you in a couple of years each year until one day I said hey dad is it you and it turned it looked at me and I started talking to it and I looked around to make sure my neighbors were not looking to think I was crazy and they would call the cops LOL I walked up to it I stuck my finger out my city that if that you come on my finger and it did And now every year it comes it only comes out when I am there or if my mother is walking out the door or if my sister is walking up the walkway Im going to send you a picture via your email God bless you sorry for your loss. Joan Agnessanto

Brigit
Brigit
4 years ago

My mom Rosemary has been gone since 2008. We promised each other long ago that if there was a way to send a signal from the other side she would send them loud and clear. I’ve received messages and signs many times since then. I’m not sure how I figured it out, but she sends me nickels as a reocurring sign.
The other day I thought that I haven’t noticed her messages in a while. Probably because life’s upheaval these days has distracted me from them. Within minutes, as I sat down to watch a DYI home show, a carpenter had a pile of nickels on the counter and the hostess was using Rosemary to scent homemade candles!! She has totally kept her promise to me!

Marie
Marie
4 years ago

Lisa, this post is lovely, and an important message. Sometimes we forget or our trust in the other side wavers. Stories shared like this bring it right back and reinforce our belief –
Thank you

Irina Miteva
Irina Miteva
4 years ago

Lisa, I am so happy to read this! Beautiful!!!! I also receibe guidance in my dreams from my grandmother who passed on March 8th. I am so happy she is present. Thank you sincerely for the sharing!

Keisha
Keisha
3 years ago

Wow Lisa! What a beautiful affirmation from the other side of the veil. I thank you for sharing your need to receive signs even though you are so in touch. Signs so important in this plane and gives us the strength and the faith to keep on keeping on.

Wishing you and your family lots of love and comfort during this time of bereavement.

Camille
Camille
11 months ago

Loved this article & your experience歹

Ali
Ali
11 months ago

Love this <3 Always missing Aunt Carol, Uncle Joe, and Grandma – our “three amigos.” Great post.

Karen
Karen
11 months ago

Thank you for sharing Lisa. I was with some of my aunts over the weekend…including my Aunt Carol who loves the color purple and butterflies. My Mom, her sister passed two years ago May 11th. Saturday morning as I was getting ready a female cardinal landed on the chair by my window. When I got to the gathering I was trying to pull up photos of my new grandson and and picture of my Mom and I popped up. I know she and other family members who have passed are with me every day. I am truly grateful for the time we are able to spend together. Thank you for the reminder of how important that time is…

shima Chayvet
shima Chayvet
11 months ago

I love this post and remember it when you first put it up. How wonderful to have a woman in your life that was close and special with such wonderful memories to remember her by!

Debra Van Pelt
Debra Van Pelt
28 days ago

This was beautiful!! Thank you for sharing your Aunt Carol with us.

Christina Gilileo
Christina Gilileo
23 days ago

That was a beautiful story Lisa. I had something like that happen to me after my father passed. A year prior to his passing my dad had a major heart attack he passed 2 times on the table as the doctors were trying to save him. The doctors said that God himself had to of done the work to keep him here because he shouldnt have made it BUT He made it through the heart attack stronger than ever Thank you GOD. Fast forward to two weeks before his one year anniversary of his heart attack and my dad was back in the hospital for what we thought was just the flu turns out he had stage 4 lung cancer. We were so devastated but my father took the news like a champ. He was told there was no treatment to go home and enjoy his time with his family. I moved back home to be with him that very day until it was time for him to go be with the Lord. While him and I sat on the porch that same afternoon after leaving the hospital I asked him how come he was taking the news so well. His words to me were that when he was in the hospital having his heart attack he had pleaded with God to please let him come back and say his goodbyes to his family that he needed to prepare us all but especially his wife and he said God told me he would give me time to get things right. So he felt blessed for the time he was given.

I asked him how will I know you made it there safely and he said that when his time came and he had to go that he would let me know he made it safe and sound & to promise him to be there for my mom the best I could. He passed 2 weeks later on the same day that he had his heart attack the year before. GOD gave him exactly 1 year. I returned to my own home a week after his passing. I went to bed that night and slept for the first time in what seemed like forever. I also had the most realistic dream of my dad that night he so close I could touch him but he wouldnt allow me too. My husband actually woke me because I was crying in my sleep. The next morning I woke up to a cardinal pecking on my bedroom window. My husband said he had been doing it for over an hour. I walked over to the window and tapped back. I started asking this beautiful male cardinal questions and every time I would ask a question the cardinal would fly to the tree branch and back to the window. Once I told him I would be ok and I would protect my mom as promised that he could go now he put his beak (no tapping just pressed it to the window)then he flew away. My husband video the whole thing and that was my confirmation that he was ok and I would be too & I have the video to watch every time I just want to feel my dads presences.

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