Happy Solar Return to me and this one I am told is special because I’m forty…wait, I’m FORTY? How the heck did that happen?
I feel like it was yesterday that I was breakdancing with my siblings on Saturday mornings (the videos are priceless and I can literally pee my pants laughing watching them).
I am not attached to the number and that I am 40. It didn’t really phase me because to be honest? I feel better now than I did at 25 emotionally, physically and spiritually and I feel good and strong with who I am.
Notice I said didn’t?
Well, to be real…..it did get to me last week for a few days. I am chalking it up to the fact that we are in ‘quarantine’ that made me extra aware and emotional about it. No big deal, I allowed myself to wallow in the pity party. I called my bestie, we commiserated , and I got over it pretty fast.
Here’s a few pictures from my in-home celebration. I was overwhelmed with love from all of the calls, texts and goodies that showed up throughout the day ???? .
*Shout out to my sis for the TP! This will be the emergency stash. ????
Anyway…..cheers to another year!
Here are 40 contemplations/revelations of mine at 40 (in random order)
1). always trust GOD or a higher power. HE will never fail you
2). your beliefs , your religion ,your education, your spirituality… none of these make you a good person… it is your heart that does
3) we are all entitled to our own beliefs, and we can agree to disagree
4) resentment and anger are poisonous so do what you can to work through these emotions and release them
5) when someone shows you their true colors, do not try and repaint them
6) being kind costs nothing and it feels good too
7) people can try to duplicate your sauce with the same recipe, but the main ingredient cannot be copied : YOU!
8) you must create boundaries for yourself, it is not selfish but necessary
9) NO is a complete sentence and you do not have to explain yourself
10) always be yourself, originals are way better than a copy
11) your intuition is real, it is your super power and you must trust it
12) when you don’t trust your intuition, your body speaks to you; every physical symptom has an emotional basis
13) smile at people for no reason
14) people can only meet you at their level of perception and readiness, don’t try to force anyone/anything
15) some people will only like/love you based off of what you can do for them…when you tighten up your boundaries, you will find they disappear…let them!
16) trying to change people does not work ,and you will only lose a part of yourself in the process
17) when others treat you poorly it is a reflection of them, not you…do not take it personal (tough one)!
18) verbal abuse is abuse, period
19) your feelings are always valid, always
20) sensitivity is a gift, compassion and empathy are gifts so use them wisely
21) the more open hearted you are, the more your feelings get hurt but thats ok- always be authentic
22) words have power, be mindful of how you speak to others but more importantly how you speak to and of yourself
23) when somebody hurts you, they may act like the victim….let it go, the man upstairs sees everything
24) you cannot heal what you will not feel
25) your soul will constantly remind you when you are unhappy
26) quiet times will reveal truths to you (hello quarantine)
27) tough times reveal true friends
28) nature is amazing and will shift your mood instantly
29) meditation will change your life
30) water will always heal and cleanse you ,whether you are submerged in it or simply listening to the sound
31) wealth is not material, it is soul deep
32) there will be people that won’t like you and they don’t have to- always stay true to yourself
33) you also do not have to like everyone, but you should always remain respectful
34) believe what people show you, not what they tell you….actions really do speak louder than words and if you pay close attention, you will have the answer
35) when you see something or feel something nice about someone don’t feel weird just say it, people need to hear the good
36) no matter how tough things are, storms don’t last forever
37) random acts of kindness do not need public recognition
38) it is ok to live a life that other people question or do not understand : it is none of their damn business
39) being weird is a good thing, normal is boring
40) anyone that makes you laugh is a keeper
and a few more for good luck…. ???? (for real I got on a roll )……
- grief has no timetable, regardless of what anyone tells you
- I may not always be right, but I will always be real
- apologize when you are wrong
- people will judge you no matter what you do, they will say you said/did things that might not be true….don’t worry about it just keep living, eventually the truth comes out
- there are plenty of people that love and value you, so do not waste your energy on the ones that don’t, regardless of ‘why’
- just because you are good to people it will not make them good to you
- recognize that sometimes YOU are the problem, and call yourself out on your own bullshit
- there will be people that are bothered/resentful/envious of the way others love and respect you….this is not anything about you! Be yourself, keep shining ????don’t dim your light to make others comfortable
- when you are naturally compassionate, there will be some that want access to your energy all the time….it is not mean to pull away and protect yourself
- give without expectation and you will not be disappointed
- honest communication can move mountains….don’t be afraid to open your heart, and your mouth!
- you were blessed with certain gifts and talents, do not be afraid to use them
- kindness and humbleness are often mistaken for weakness, strongly mistaken
- strength is quiet while insecurity is loud
- Never assume! It will make an ASS out of U and ME
I am sure I can keep going, but I will leave it here.
Thank you all for your continued love and support, it truly means the world to me.
Cheers to another trip around the ???? ???? ✨